I wanted to write this one since long not that I am feminist but the thoughts are so predominant I had to pour it out.
Hyper masculinity is an exaggerated belief about what it is to be a MAN. The traditional ideology that men should be authoritative, lack emotions, breadwinners, chiselled body and more such things are promoted in the name of masculinity.
Bollywood aids on to our cultural and traditional ideologies. Bollywood in India significantly propagates such harmful ideological , it inarguably influences lifestyle and has a far reaching ramifications.
Casual misogyny is offered in the guise of jokes and playful teasing. People preceive Bollywood in their daily life and surrogate it in every relationship.
Here are few dialogues from some very well known movies and actors that I find demeaning and bias.
Movie : Kuch kuch hota hai
Shah rukh Khan -ladkiyan basketball nahi khel sakti !
Ok, I am one crazy crazy SRK fan but please, I’ll never yell, ‘Rahul juice’. No please. I like him more for the person he is not as an actor.
Amitabh Bachchan – Mard ko dard nahi hota.
Tell me how it was after a month! (if only it could happen to you)
Or even less than that I hate those hair of yours on your chest can you go for a wax.
Some songs :
1. O meri mehbooba
Movie: Dharam veer
Singer: Mohammed Rafi
The song goes:
Par dekh tu jo ruth kar chali jaegi
Tere saath he mere marne ki khabar aaegi
I thought Dharmendra was decent, blackmailing and how. Your beloved cannot be angry on you at any given point. That’s the trigger for you to die, pity death!
2. Jag ghoomeya
Singer: Rahat Fateh Ali Khan
The song goes:
Sang tujhe rakhna hai,
Tune sang rehna
I loved the movie I love this song too but one day while I was listening I told my husband, ‘yeh kya no consent, puch toh lo rehna bhi hai ya nahi.’
He busted in laughter. And I frowned.
3. Chand si mehbooba ho meri
Movie: Himalay ki god mein
The song goes:
Chand si mehbooba ho meri kab
Aisa maine socha tha,
Haan tum bilkul waisi ho
Jaisa maine socha tha .
Epic, how can this be a romantic song. You are openly insulting her. Kudos to the heroine for smiling throughout in the song. I would have slapped.
There are many more dialogues and songs that are epitome of patriarchy but we still find it entertaining and worth humming, keeping at bay the real meaning and hidden sublimed misogyny. All these movies faired at the box office because we watch it and enjoy it. I’m not saying to stop watching movies but at least express when you dislike something or feel that the same gender is being belittled.
I still urge you all to believe that I am not a feminist I don’t want to be. I just want to be a woman and be respected for that.
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